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Quote of the Day

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“You are as you are until you’re not. You change when you want to change. You put your ideas into action in the timing that is best. That’s just how it happens.

And what I think we all need more than anything is this: permission to be wherever the fuck we are when we’re there.

You’re not a robot. You can’t just conjure up motivation when you don’t have it. Sometimes you’re going through something. Sometimes life has happened. Life! Remember life? Yeah, it teaches you things and sometimes makes you go the long way around for your biggest lessons.

You don’t get to control everything. You can wake up at 5 a.m. every day until you’re tired and broken, but if the words or the painting or the ideas don’t want to come to fruition, they won’t. You can show up every day to your best intentions, but if it’s not the time, it’s just not the fucking time. You need to give yourself permission to be a human being.”

— Jamie Varon

As people who know me well know very well, my mouth is somewhat akin to that of a sailor on most days. Because I don’t shave regularly? No. Because I have salt in my mouth from my (slight) addiction to the NEW Ruffles Salt & Vinegar chips? Not exactly.

Because I can swear ’em up as good and goodly as anyone out there.

However, I’m very selective about using foul language in writing, as it almost has a more powerful effect than using it verbally. My rule, by and large, is to use it only (a) in dialogue, (b) sparingly for effect in narrative, or (c) whenever the hell you want if you’re writing a blog.

I enjoy coming across people online who aren’t famous but who have a point of view, or at the very least an interesting way of writing about the world. Jamie Varon is one such person. On top of running her own site, called Jamie Varon: Writer of All the Feelings, she’s also the author of a couple of books.

I came across today’s QOTD, loved it from the get-go, and hope you get something out of it, too.



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To Anyone Who Thinks They’re Falling Behind In Life

Sometimes you have to take a step back in life and call out the elephant in the room. And sometimes that elephant will show you that it’s all good (even when your world is falling to pieces), that it’s useless to compare yourself to others (even if it’s second nature for the entire animal kingdom), and to recognize that effort does not always equal success (good people who work hard get crushed just as often in life as bad people rise to the top).

Jamie Varon has penned an emotional, poignant, and deeply affecting piece in the Huffington Post that is a rare case of dropping F bombs not just with aplomb, but with apparent impunity – and getting away with it!

She inspires without being pedantic or patronizing. She’s youthful and hip, but sage enough to know some of life’s great secrets. Most of all, though, she has the reader walk away feeling better about themselves no matter how shitty things might seem right now. Varon’s prose is gritty, yet uplifting; seemingly base until you think about what she’s just written and go, Shit la merde! She’s bang on, yo!

Personally, motivational speakers annoy me. The best part of Chicken Noodle Soup for the Soul, for example, was that I didn’t have to read Jack Canfield, the anthologist who put it all together, but instead got to be blown away by some impressive writers and orators.

With respect to Jamie Varon’s piece, if you don’t have the time to read the entire article, here are some of my favourite nuggets of gold:

Our experience cannot always be manipulated. Yet, we don’t act as though we know this truth. We try so hard to manipulate and control our lives, to make creativity into a game to win, to shortcut success because others say they have, to process emotions and uncertainty as if these are linear journeys.

Things are dark until they’re not. Most of our unhappiness stems from the belief that our lives should be different than they are.

You need to stop listening to people who are in vastly different life circumstances and life stages than you tell you that you’re just not doing or being enough.

And what I think we all need more than anything is this: permission to be wherever the fuck we are when we’re there.

Sometimes you’re not falling in love because whatever you need to know about yourself is only knowable through solitude.


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